8 Little Arrows in my Quiver

Reflections and Ramblings of a Happily Harried Mom of Many

The Way God Loves February 29, 2012

Filed under: Uncategorized — 8littlearrows @ 11:56 am

If you’d like a beautiful picture of the way God loves you, please check this out.  I know I’ve recommended Ann Voskamp’s blog over and over, but I just can’t help myself.  Every time I read it, I am moved.  Every time I read it, I experience God reaching out and touching my heart, and for me, that’s saying a lot.  I have lots of head knowledge about God, but often have trouble really feeling His presence, really experiencing His love.  Ann has an amazing ability to not only do this, but to communicate it to others.  If you haven’t already, do yourself a favor this Lent and subscribe to her blog for a regular dose of inspiration.


Please, if you’re moved, pass on the grace! Have a beautiful day, my friends.


Crown of Thorns and some Lenten Links February 24, 2012

Filed under: Lent Traditions,Traditions for Lent and Easter,Uncategorized — 8littlearrows @ 10:39 pm

Our "Crown of Thorns" ready for the oven

We made our crown of thorns today.  This is a Lenten tradition we’ve been doing for years. It’s been a great way to teach the kids the concept that our actions now, good or bad, affected Christ then.  We make a braided wreath out of salt dough and stick lots of toothpicks in, and then bake it.  Then each day of Lent, whenever a child does any type of penance/sacrifice/good deed, they get to remove a “thorn.” In this way, they’ve just lessened the agony of Jesus, and offered Him consolation instead. The goal is to remove all the thorns by Easter, having gotten in the habit of behaving in a way that honors God, and shows His love to others. The crown of thorns becomes the centerpiece on our dinner table.

In the past, I made the wreath out of bread dough, which is nice because it rises and gets bigger, thus having room for more toothpicks for our large family.  It is also easier to get the toothpicks out. However, by the end of 40 days, it tended to get moldy and dry, and even crack in half.  So this year, I found this recipe for one made from salt dough: http://www.cuf.org/familyresources/saltdoughrecipe.asp

ready to "roll"

making "snakes"


Putting the "thorns" in while explaining that each one is one of our sins

All my helpers

I love that my son is using a toothpick for a sword, while his sister is intently putting them into the crown. That says it all!

I also have a couple more links to share with you.  I received a little postcard in the mail last week advertising “Holy Heroes Lenten Adventure,” a FREE resource with Lenten activities for kids.  You just go to the website, plug in your email, and then you’ll receive emails three times a week.  There are audio and video presentations, coloring pages and puzzles to print, and fun Lenten traditions.  I’ve been doing it with my kids these last three days and they have all seemed to enjoy it.  Even my “big kids” have been getting into the coloring.  Here’s the website.  Check it out: http://www.holyheroes.com/

And finally, we will be doing Ann Voskamp’s “Trail to the Tree,” which is similar to the Jesse Tree, but focuses on the life of Jesus, with beautiful artwork to meditate on.  Ann is offering this beautiful booklet, complete with ornaments, for FREE download.  I have been so blessed by Ann’s words — on her blog, in her Jesse Tree book, and in her best-selling “One Thousand Gifts.”  I am so grateful to her.  Please check out the richness at http://www.aholyexperience.com/2012/02/what-lent-really-means-free-easter-devotional-book-to-make-a-jesus-easter-tree/

Stay tuned for more traditions as we get closer to Easter, like our “Lamb of God” pinata.


“Required” Reading for our Teens February 18, 2012

Filed under: Family,Parenting — 8littlearrows @ 11:01 pm

For awhile now, I’ve been trying to complete a list of books that we are requiring our teens to read.  However, I finally realized that it could be years before the list is actually complete, since I keep finding more.  So I decided that I would post the incomplete list and add to it later if I find more resources.  Just a quick disclaimer for my Catholic readers: many of these are not specifically Catholic books.  Unfortunately, we do not have a very strong Catholic community here, but I have found many of these resources through the wonderful Christian friends I have made over the years, and I am working on finding some more Catholic resources, particularly in the area of chastity.  I welcome your recommendations.  And in the meantime, I invite you to check out the following, though there are some more small disclaimers on a few of them.      


God’s Design for Sex Series: We started using these books with our kids at a very young age.  I wasn’t sure about this, but we knew they would hear about all of it from their peers, and we wanted to be able to get the right perspective about it all into their brains before they heard it from the wrong perspective.  It has really paid off.  It was a little embarrassing for me, because I wasn’t used to talking so frankly and openly about this topic, but the kids were never embarrassed, and they are still all able to talk to me about it freely.    These are from a Christian perspective, but I didn’t find anything in them to contradict Catholic teaching except for the issues of masturbation and birth control.  The authors don’t take a stand either way on the former, just say that there is some disagreement about the issue among Christians.  This doesn’t present a problem for me, as I can easily teach the kids the Catholic perspective on these issues.  And they don’t come up until the last couple of books, by which time the kids will be old enough for us to discuss those issues.  But I just wanted you to be aware of it.

Beautiful Girlhood, originally written by M. Hale, revised and expanded by Karen Andreola.  This is a great book to read along with your daughter.  There is even some sort of study/discussion guide to go along with it, though I have not actually seen it other than in a catalog.

I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Josh Harris; written by an unmarried young man who realized all the things that are wrong with the whole dating scene, and decided to be radical.

Boy Meets Girl by Josh Harris (sequel to the above title, after the author met and married his wife). Both books are Christian, but not Catholic, but I did not find anything in them to concern me.

Our well-loved and battered copy of "Arms of Love"

Arms of Love by Carmen Marcoux: A Catholic novel dealing with chastity/courtship.  Also, check out her website www.courtshipnow.com.  My daughter has read this at least 3 times.  There is also a sequel, Surrender, which is wonderful as well.  I found that these novels present a beautiful perspective on the dignity of the person within a romantic relationship (as well as in daily family life), and because this idea is incorporated into the whole book, it’s almost as if the message is being taught without the reader being consciously aware of it.  I found myself caught up in the story, almost as if the family was real, and I came away from it feeling that this approach to relationships is possible, despite what our culture tells us.  Girls would be more apt to get into this type of book, but we required our son to read it, too, because it was such a perfect example of what we wanted to teach both about courtship and Catholic family life.  He may not have enthusiastically devoured it multiple times and passed it on to all his friends the way our daughter did, but he did read it and like it.

Lady in Waiting by Debby Jones and Jackie Kendall.  This is a wonderful, Christian book that “is not about finding the right man, but being the right woman,” one who knows that her true satisfaction can only be found in a relationship with Christ.  It will inspire a young (or older) woman to “recklessly abandon herself to the Lordship of Christ, diligently use her single days, trust God with unwavering faith, demonstrate virtue in daily life, love God with undistracted devotion, stand for physical and emotional purity, live in security, respond to life with contentment, make choices based on her convictions, and wait patiently for God to meet her needs.” (All quotes taken from the introduction of the book — no need to struggle trying to describe it when they did such a good job already! 🙂 )

And the Bride Wore White by Dannah Gresh: This is written for girls and also concerns chastity in dating relationships.  I would recommend you read this first so you have a better idea of when to have your daughter read it.  It’s geared towards girls who are ready to date.  I have not had Maggie read it yet, but plan on using some of the ideas it contains when I talk with her about this topic.  There is one especially neat idea that I had never seen anywhere:  making a list of what to look for in a future spouse, after prayer and discussion with parents and other adults who are living their faith, so that when meeting prospective “dates,” a girl will have kind of an objective idea of the qualities that are important to her before her heart gets entangled in a relationship and clouds her judgment.  I’m definitely doing this with my daughters.  Dannnah’s husband wrote a book for boys, as well: Who Moved the Goalpost?  I would especially recommend these books for teens who have already been exposed to sexual issues or temptations.  Otherwise, I believe they could actually introduce thoughts or images that may not have occurred to your teen already.  Other books that would be helpful for teens or young adults already struggling with sexual temptations would be Every Young Man’s Battle (by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker), and Every Young Woman’s Battle (by Stephen Arterburn and Shannon Etheridge). 

Secret Keeper by Dannah Gresh: This is a wonderful little booklet for girls about the importance of modesty.  I cannot recommend it highly enough.

This Clear and Present Darkness by Frank Peretti: Christian, but not Catholic.  This is a novel which clearly demonstrates the reality of the unseen spiritual battle that is always raging.  Some theological differences, but honestly, it’s been so long since I read it that I don’t remember quite what they were.  Read it before having your child read it so you can address any differences that come up.

Wild at Heart by John Eldredge: for boys/men.  Also recommended reading for women who want to have a better understanding of “what makes men tick.”

Captivating by Stasi Eldredge: for girls/women.  Also recommended reading for men who want to understand women.  I highly recommend this book for adult women as well as teens.  I found myself moved to tears throughout just because this author validated the way I feel as a woman, even though I hadn’t even realized it.  My husband even started reading it and discussing it with me. He was so excited to have some help understanding me! 🙂

Do Hard Things by Alex and Brett Harris.  This book is not Catholic and the introduction in particular contains a reference to a group of monks that could be offensive to some Catholics.  With that said, however, the book itself is a great challenge to teens to exceed the pathetically low expectations our culture places on them, rather than treating the teen years as a time to coast through on a little mini-vacation before reaching adulthood (at which time they are suddenly supposed to know how to be contributing, successful adults!).  There is a sequel to this book (Start Here: Doing Hard Things Right Where You Are) that gets into some more specific ways to “do hard things.”

The 4:8 Principle by Tommy Newberry.  This is a whole book based on Philippians 4:8: “Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy — meditate on these things.”  I love that Newberry teaches very specific ways to use this verse as a filter through which to see all of life, thus showing us how to really live as joy-filled people of God.

How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie.  This book is especially great for those (like me) who are not naturally outgoing “people persons.”  I’ve had a few interactions with people lately who really could have benefitted from the lessons in this book! Seriously, Carnegie offers practical tips which, when practiced, will help anyone become the type of person who is welcomed anywhere.



Many of these books can be found at www.Christianbook.com. I buy lots of books used on Ebay or new/used on Amazon as well.

So, there you have it, the very incomplete list of required reading for our teens. I hope to update it as I find more, but with the brain fog that’s been haunting me lately, I know better than to make that promise! Happy reading!


From My Family to Yours December 25, 2011

Filed under: Uncategorized — 8littlearrows @ 11:39 pm


All ready for Chistmas Eve Mass


Something My Teens and I Can Agree On December 14, 2011

Filed under: Advent and Christmas,Music — 8littlearrows @ 7:58 pm

Just came across this amazing video, which my kids and I have enjoyed three times already in the last 10 minutes. I can’t explain it, really, but it just makes me feel happy.  You can tell how much fun he’s having, and there’s just something about when teens get creative in praising the Lord that really moves me.  SO COOL!



Wonderful Advent/Christmas Reflection December 13, 2011

Filed under: Music — 8littlearrows @ 8:59 pm

I ran across this video the other day and found it really powerful, so I thought I would share it.  Never heard of this group, but I will have to check out their other music.  Enjoy!



Treasure in Heaven December 6, 2011

Filed under: Family,Miscarriage — 8littlearrows @ 11:16 pm

I heard today of a dear woman who is really struggling after miscarrying her first baby, and it brought back so many memories for me.  When I was going through my own valleys of loss, I found so much comfort in talking to others who had experienced the same thing.  I was also ministered to through music, particularly that of Watermark and Marie Bellet, who both have songs specifically about miscarriage. Since I’m a musician myself, these songs really helped me process what I was feeling.  I spent quite a bit of time journaling as well, and even composed lyrics to my own song, which have yet to be set to music.  I haven’t shared them with too many people, but I got thinking today that if others’ experiences helped me so much, maybe my experience could help someone, too.  I’ve shared my miscarriage story here:  https://8littlearrows.wordpress.com/2010/08/12/no-pain-no-gain/, but today, I thought I would also share the song lyrics I wrote after my second miscarriage.  So without further ado, here it is:

Treasure in Heaven

While I take up this cross

I despise the shame.

I wish it could be another way.

I know I have to say, “Thy will be done,”

But it’s so hard to let go of a life just begun.

Then I hear You say:

“Do not lay up for yourself treasures on Earth,

But lay up treasures in Heaven,

For where your treasure is,

there will your heart be also.”

And now I have a treasure in Heaven

neither moth nor rust can consume,

and Satan has no claim on her soul,

’cause I know she’s already with You.

So break this stubborn human heart, Lord.

Help me say, “Thy will be done.”

Deep down I know it was in your wisdom

that You took away my little one.

My heart is with my treasure.

She keeps my eyes fixed on the prize —

that one day we will praise the Lord

together, side by side.

And in the meantime, my little treasure,

pray for your mother’s aching heart.

Pray for me. Pray for me.

(For Hope, January 1995, Mary Rose, January 2001, Trinity, April 2001)

For a beautiful prayer after a miscarriage, click here: https://8littlearrows.wordpress.com/2011/02/17/prayer-after-a-miscarriage/